I’ll be real — I tried a bunch, from Tinder to lesser-known hookup apps. Most are filled with bots or people just looking for attention. The one that worked for me? Pure. It cuts the small talk.
But the real “secret” isn’t the site — it’s honesty. I used to write vague bios, but when I said clearly what I wanted (“casual, respectful fun”), I matched with real people.
Of course, I had a few bad experiences — ghosting, fake profiles, one awkward date where the girl brought her friend “for safety.” Fair enough.
Now I see hookups differently — they can be respectful, fun, even meaningful. But you have to treat people like people, not options. That’s when it works.