I used to think I could separate feelings from actions. I was wrong. I joined a married dating site during a cold phase in my marriage. The guilt started the second I created my profile.
I met someone who made me laugh again, reminded me what connection feels like. But every good night ended with bad conscience. When my wife found messages months later, the fallout nearly destroyed everything.
We’re in counseling now. I told her everything. Painful, but freeing.
If you’re tempted — ask yourself why. Most people don’t need a new person; they need a new effort in their current relationship. I wish I’d realized that before hurting the one person who always loved me.