[Andrreee]

hey everyone… my partner and i just hit the long‑distance mark (we moved to different cities for work) and i’m trying to figure out how to survive the first few months apart without going off the rails. anyone here who’s been there — what advice actually helped you in those early weeks/months?

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[Omar1919]

hey… i’m in month four of ldr (long‑distance relationship) with my bf, we’re about 6 hrs apart by train.

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[TylerBr__]

hi all… been in an ldr for 8 months now (he’s in another country). the first few months were tricky but these things made a difference:
we created little rituals: sending a good‑morning voice note (vs text), a “what’s your playlist this week?” share, little surprises (a weird meme, a photo of something he’d like). these small rituals built our “we” despite geography.

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[claireeclairee]

hey… chipping in with my voice — we just passed the 6‑month mark (i live in one city, he moved for 3 months for his project). first months were rough: time zones, weird schedules, feeling lonely. here’s what worked:
we set “no phone” zones for calls sometimes — eg: one evening a week we both take a break from calls and do our own thing, then share how it went next day. gives space.

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[Big_AdamW]

My fiancé and I did long distance for eight months between New York and Lisbon. The first three months nearly broke us.
What saved us was structure—daily video calls at the same time, shared Netflix watch nights, and sending surprise gifts. But the biggest lesson: stop counting the days apart; start creating moments together, even virtually.
We also fought, a lot. Mostly because of time zones and insecurities. Once we both admitted we were scared, everything softened.
We closed the distance this summer, and it was worth every lonely night. The best advice I can give: if you both keep choosing each other even when it’s hard, that’s love.

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