I joined one out of loneliness during a bad marriage. It started as curiosity but turned into a double life. The secrecy was thrilling at first — encrypted chats, code names, hotel meetups. But guilt grew faster than excitement.
I met a woman who was also married. We promised not to get attached, but of course, we did. It ended painfully when her husband found out.
Was it worth it? For the lessons, maybe. For the hurt, no.
If you’re unhappy, fix the cause, not the symptoms. Affair sites make you feel seen temporarily, but they don’t solve emptiness. They just borrow happiness you’ll have to repay later.